It means you’ll emerge from your current circumstances with newly acquired wisdom, changed for the better. However, those who fare far better elect to adopt an alternate mindset where they tell themselves, “I’m growing through this.” Growing through something is action-oriented, positive, and empowering. In this scenario, you remain pessimistic, primarily driven by fear, and resigned to the status quo. Going through something is passive it’s happening to you. When you feel challenged, you’re offered two perspectives from which to view the situation.Ĭhoosing to see your current circumstances as “I’m going through this” can be demoralizing and deflating. They possess a victim mentality and ask, Why me? They’re perpetually in crisis mode, fearful, anxious, sad, and fail to take action.

We all know those who think the world has conspired against them. Shift from “I’m going through this” to “I’m growing through this” “Yes, and.” is a builder that invites collaboration “Yes, but.” shuts things down.Ĭultivating a “Yes, and.” mindset means that you’re curious about and open to the suggestions of others, agree with at least part of what they say, and then find a way to build on their ideas. In improv, one partner must agree with what the other has just said or done and then add to it by saying, “Yes, and.”. Improvisation, which is rooted in the principle of “Yes, and.” offers a simple way to reframe those situations. However, “Yes, but.” is discouraging, disheartening, and negative it halts a conversation and any forward progress of an idea. In these instances, your reaction to a suggestion might be to say, “Yes, but.”. You can come up with reasons why things won’t work or improve when stressed. Having to do something feels like a chore getting to do something feels like a reward. “I have to create a new marketing plan” is an obligation, whereas “I get to create a new marketing plan” is an opportunity.

When you swap out an “I have to” with “I get to,” everything changes.

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